Meet Newton Hightower
Newton Hightower, author of the ground-breaking book, Anger Busting 101: New ABCs for Angry Men and the Women Who Love Them (©2002), is the director of the Center for Anger Resolution, Inc., in Houston, Texas. Hightower, who himself had a life-long history of rage problems, tried many approaches—from pillow-pounding to daily meditation—hoping to find a way to handle his anger appropriately. None were effective.
The concept behind this book originated while Hightower was leading a group for angry drug abusers at the Veterans Administration Medical Center. However the methods he used made his patients worse, not better. At the same time, his own rageful behavior at home led to his second divorce. This woke him up and he began to look for a new way.
By combining recovery methods that worked for various addictions, Hightower developed a program that finally worked for him. Anger Busting 101 features Hightowers new ABCs: Abstain from angry behaviors, Believe and act on new values, and Communicate in a new, soft, kind manner. His method, characterized as the “Wake up! Shut up! Grow up!” approach to anger management, has helped thousands of rageaholics and their families.
A licensed therapist with more than 25 years of counseling experience, Hightower is a frequent speaker at national and regional professional organizations. He was a keynote speaker at the First National Conference on Alcohol & Drugs as Factors in Violence, which aired on C-SPAN, and is a popular guest on radio and TV. He is the former director of the Baylor Family Medicine Counseling Clinic and former president of the Houston Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. He is also a Fellow of the American Group Psychotherapy Association and has served on the board of the Houston Group Psychotherapy Association for more than a decade.
Hightower created and teaches a national certification program for therapists throughout the United States. The therapists who complete his program become Certified Anger Resolution Therapists™. There are more than 350 graduates to date. John Hough, Ph.D., psychologist and author of Against the Wall, recently wrote: “Newton has a most infectious sense of humor. He intertwines this humor with poignant personal stories and solid clinical data to both entertain and inform. He is always successful in getting his point across and is well appreciated by his audiences.”
During the last 10 years, Hightower has diligently followed his ABC program. He is now able to say with honesty what had always been beyond his wildest dreams: “I am happily married and my life is good.” He hopes his approach will help others find the same sense of peace. Hightower lives with his wife of 11 years near Houston.
Questions Newton Hightower is frequently asked about his book
Anger Busting 101: New ABCs for Angry Men
and the Women Who Love Them
1. How did you get interested in helping people manage their anger?
2. How is your approach different from those in other anger management books?
3. When you say that rageaholics need to give up expressing anger entirely, what should they do with the anger?
4. Isn't it important that spouses express their true feelings to each other? And isn't anger one of those feelings that needs to be expressed?
5. Are you saying that psychology and self-help books have all been wrong in encouraging people to get in touch with their anger and express it?
6. Do you mean that men with anger problems should just let themselves be pushed around by others?
7. Doesn't anger help make it clear to people when you really mean no?
8. Hasn't anger been useful in bringing about the changes for oppressed people, such as in the civil rights movement and the women's movement?
9. What about standing up for what is right?
10. Isn't anger a natural feeling? Will suppressing anger cause psychological and physical problems?
11. You suggest telling people, especially your wife, that she is right even if you really don't think she is. Isn't that lying?
12. You suggest not answering “why” questions. What is wrong with explaining your position?
13. Your book is directed to men with anger problems, but aren't there just as many women with anger problems?
14. Do you think all angry men can be helped?
15. What advice do you have for the women married to angry, rageful men?
16. What causes some people to have anger problems, while others do not?
17. Don't people have to find out what is really bothering them before they can get better?
18. How do people know if they are getting the right kind of counseling for this problem?
19. What is the first step a rager needs to take to begin the path to recovery?
20. What if a man gets his anger under control and his wife is still yelling?
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